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My Wife Stopped Wearing Her Wedding Ring! Understanding the Significance of This

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Your wife stopped wearing her wedding ring. You're not sure how long ago it happened but one day you looked at her hand and noticed something was missing. If she always wore the ring and suddenly her finger is bare, that's got to be a shock. Obviously, your first reaction is curiosity and so you asked her about it right? Most wives in this position have one of a number of answers including, "I forgot to put it on today, my hand is swollen or I didn't want to damage it." You must use your inner instinct to truly understand what's going on and of course, you have to watch her behavior as today turns into tomorrow and the week goes on. Although not wearing a wedding ring is often a simple and innocent oversight on the part of a wife, it can also be a sign of much marital dissatisfaction lurking deep in her heart.

There are a number of reasons why women stop wearing their wedding rings:

It does not fit anymore. Sadly, for us women, weight gain is not subjective. It does all go to our hips or thighs as we claim. Hands do accumulate fat when a woman gains weight and that size 5 sparkler you gave her on your wedding day may not fit past her knuckle now. If your wife is a little curvier than she was the day you two married, this may be the culprit.

She's incredibly active . Women who love to work out, be it running, biking or tending to the garden, often strip themselves of jewelery for comfort reasons. If your wife was often taking her wedding ring on and off, she may also be concerned about losing it. This is more common than most men realize and you can typically tell if this is the reason why the ring is missing from your wife's finger. If she always puts it on when you two go out or when she's just relaxing around the house, she cherishes that ring and its meaning.

She's having an affair. This seems incredibly obvious and sadly it is. If you catch your wife without her ring on when she returns home at times, it may be because she's hiding it in her pocket or handbag. This is often the first tangible sign of an affair and if you've had gnawing suspicions about how faithful she is, it is well worth investigating.

Her feelings have changed. A woman's wedding ring is a sign of her devotion and commitment to her husband. It's an outward sign of the silent vows that are made between a couple not only the day they marry but as their life together matures. If your wife feels less close to you or she feels there's an emotional disconnect between you two, she may have removed the ring because it's a painful reminder of happier times. If your wife seems dissatisfied with the marriage in general it's very likely that's why …

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We're Separated And My Spouse Has Stopped Wearing His Wedding Ring. Mine Still Means Something To Me

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One of the things that people who don't want to separate with their spouse are trying to avoid are questions that they don't know how to answer. They will often dread people asking them about the state of their marriage or whether or not they are going to get a divorce. They don't know the answers to these questions and they don't really want to think about them too deeply, or even to talk about them.

One symbol that puts these feelings and conflicts into sharp focus is that of wedding rings. Many people believe that you should still wear them. I am one of these people. My opinion on this is that when you are separated, you are still married. And married people wear wedding rings. I believe that there's a reason that the couple are separated and not divorced and should therefore act accordingly.

Not everyone agrees with me though. Some people remove their ring as soon as they declare themselves separated or have moved out. They feel that wearing it isn't being authentic and they don't want to pretend that things are fine when they are not.

This can lead to conflict when the spouses feel very differently on this topic. Someone might explain: "I have no intentions of taking off my wedding ring but my husband has already removed his and it breaks my heart. I worry that this means that he is going to be looking for other women during our separation or that he does not consider himself truly married anymore. I have mentioned these things to him, but he says that I am over reacting. He says that he just doesn't feel like wearing his. I don't understand this. I could never take mine off .I sometimes find him staring at mine, as if he wishes he could ask me to take it off. I don't want to remove it because of what it represents to me. I am still hopeful that we will one day reconcile. And I don't want to invite people to ask me questions about why I am not wearing it. I have no idea how I would answer those questions anyway. Plus, it is no one's business. Is there any rule about whether or not you should wear your ring when separated? "

I don't know of any rules. Most couples just decide on this based on how they feel at the time. I understand why you are upset. You feel that your husband not wanting to wear his ring is very telling in terms of his intentions. You could be right about this, but I would not panic. People's feelings can change over the course of a separation. And, not every one wears their ring all of the time.

To be honest, there are times when I do not wear my ring even though my husband and I have been reconciled for a while. It has nothing to do with my feelings about my marriage. I do …