The Surprising Truth About Your Sexual Style

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Let me ask you this: are you able to describe your sexual style? That is, if we were having a face-to-face conversation right now, could you describe it to me, in detail? If you're shaking your head (and maybe even blushing a little), don't worry – you're definitely not alone.

There aren't many red-blooded adults who could describe their sexual style, and of those who could, few would feel comfortable enough to talk openly about it in public.

The reason for this, I believe, is that there is still so much taboo around sexuality, particularly for women.

On the whole, women aren't encouraged to properly explore their sexual identity. More often than not the topic is off limits, and the information we're given as we're growing up is usually driven by someone else's agenda.

The first formal sex education I received was in year 7 at a private Catholic girls school. Our PE teacher (not a nun) was under strict instructions (by the nuns) to educate us about masturbation. The key takeaway was that it was a sin!

Fortunately for me, my informal education came by way of older sisters, and Dolly Magazine. Any questions, I had my sources.

Nowadays, working as a relationship therapist, I get to talk about sexuality all the time. I see couples who site their sex life, or lack of one, as the biggest issue in their relationship. But once we start to explore what's behind their concern, the focus is always less about the sex, and more about the beliefs, values ​​and emotional connection that each individual brings to the relationship.

In his book Passionate Marriage, Sex Therapist, David Schnarch, describes the three styles of sex as, sexual trance, partner engagement and role-play.

These descriptions can help couples struggling with sexual intimacy to better understand where each other are coming from. For instance, if you're tending towards one style, and your partner has another, it can feel like you (or they) are doing it wrong. Having some insight into how your partner feels about sex (and during sex) can be a real game-changer in the bedroom.

Don't forget, the act of sex itself can be boring, terrifying or exciting – depending on who you're talking to. Each of us has a preference for technique, emotional tone, and style, so it can be helpful to understand what that looks like for your partner.

There's no right or wrong way to have sex. What works for you and your partner can change based on your moods, the environment you're in, and many other variables. This is normal, healthy sexuality.

If your sex life, or love-making, only works for one or the other (or neither) of you, then with a greater understanding, you each have the opportunity to do something about it.

Sexual Trance

If this is your style, you like to focus inward on your sensuality. Your focus is drawn to your bodily sensations, the tingling of your skin, the feeling of arousal, the build-up of …


The Truth Behind Tungsten Carbide Wedding Rings

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If you have been in the market for an alternative metal wedding ring because you wanted something that is ultimately strong, maintenance free, fairly inexpensive, and have been considering one made from Tungsten Carbide, you must read this article first! There are some very important things that you should consider before making your purchase. Like the love and commitment between you and your spouse, your wedding band should last a lifetime. For this reason, Tungsten Carbide may not be the best choice for your wedding jewelry.

The claims that Tungsten Carbide manufacturers make about their jewelry are not entirely true and have been disproven by various strength tests. When the metal was first released onto the jewelry scene, the dealers claimed that it was indestructible and would maintain a permanent polish. They say that Tungsten Carbide makes the most wear-resistant wedding band on Earth. Sure, Tungsten Carbine rings can remain very shiny throughout their lifetime, but what good is a high polished wedding band that has a large chip or crack?

Not the Most Wear-Resistant on Earth:

Wedding rings are worn on a daily basis and receive a lot of wear and tear. While it is near impossible to scratch a Tungsten Carbide wedding ring, it can actually chip or break fairly easily. If your Tungsten Carbide wedding ring falls to a hard floor, such as one made from stone, it is very likely to shatter into pieces. This is because Tungsten Carbide is not a metal alloy, but the blend of Tungsten and Carbide powders. This creates microscopic voids within the wedding ring and weakens the product.

Impossible to Repair:

Another drawback is that Tungsten Carbide rings cannot be resized or repaired. You will wear your wedding band for a very long time, and it is very likely that your finger size may change. While most Tungsten Carbide wedding ring retailers promise to replace your ring if any damage occurs, or if your finger shrinks or grows and you need an alternate size, you will actually be receiving a brand new ring, and not the meaningful piece of jewelry that your spouse placed on your finger the day of your wedding.

This is where softer precious metals would be a better choice. Sure, they can scratch or knick easily, but they actually last longer. While wedding rings made of precious metals such as gold, silver, and platinum need regular polishing, they can be repaired and easily resized, and thus there is no need to completely replace one.

Other Metals to Consider:

Stainless Steel:

Stainless steel wedding bands are very strong and more resistant to scratching than gold, silver, or platinum. They are one of the least expensive options available on the market, and because the use of the metal for wedding rings is a contemporary trend, there are many fashionable styles of stainless steel rings available.


Titanium is one of the strongest metals available for wedding rings, is 100% hypoallergenic, light in weight, and can be engraved. Titanium …


"I Can Only Wear Gold Jewelry" – The Truth About Jewelry Allergies

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I can only wear gold jewelry, everything else breaks me out. " How many times did I hear that exact phrase from my mother when I was a child? Every time I would give her jewelry that was her response.

Why does everything but gold break my mother out? Is that statement even true? When I started designing jewelry over ten years ago I decided to find out. I wanted to design jewelry for my mom that she could wear without fear of a breakout. Now I am going to let you in on what I have discovered.

My mother, like many people, develops contact dermatitis when her skin comes in contact with some types of jewelry. Her dermatitis is a result of an allergic reaction to the nickel found in many types of jewelry. Nickel allergies are very common, in fact one out of every seven people are likely to suffer from a nickel allergy. More often, women tend to suffer from nickel allergies than men. Allergy treatment can help with the symptoms of a nickel allergy. Unfortunately once the allergy has developed, a person will remain sensitive to nickel for the rest of their life.

Nickel is found in many types of costume jewelry, especially those that are mass-produced. It may also be found in other everyday items like coins, zippers, eyeglass frames, and cellphones.

So why is my mom allergic to nickel, you may ask. For some reason, which science still does not understand, her body has mistaken nickel (or similar metals like cobalt) as a threat. In response to that threat, her body causes an immune response (aka allergic reaction) to get rid of the threat. This reaction causes her to breakout in an itchy rash. But others could have a more severe reaction to nickel.

Now that I knew what was causing my mother's breakout, I set out to find out which types of jewelry did not contain nickel.

First I looked at gold jewelry . Generally speaking, yellow gold (above 14 karat) will not cause an allergic reaction. However white gold may. White gold alloys contain nickel and other "white" metals to produce its silver coloring. One out of every nine people will react to the nickel in white gold.

Another form of gold jewelry is gold filled or "GF" jewelry. Gold filled jewelry metal is created when a base metal is coated with a layer of gold. Gold filled differs from gold-plated by the amount of gold applied. The layer used in gold filled jewelry is typically 50 to 100 time thicker that the layer used to coat gold-plated products.

Next I looked at silver jewelry. For those who are nickel sensitive, fine silver and sterling silver are great choices for "white" metals.

Fine silver is by definition 99.9% pure silver. Jewelry is generally not made of fine silver because the metal is extremely soft and does not withstand normal wear and tear well.

Most silver jewelry is made using sterling silver. Sterling